Even a casual glance at your social feeds may make it seem like life is set up to reward people who behave badly towards themselves and others.
But when the social profiles fade and their real people emerge, you may encounter a far less glamorous truth. Do these Insta-sensations even like themselves?
Ultimately, you are the only one who knows how it feels to be you. Do you want your life to feel better than it does? It can by letting go of these 15 things.
Forget being inspired by others. It is time you enjoy being inspired by YOU. These 15 things you give up will make room for much better things to come.
Here are 15 Things you Will Need to Give Up to Become the Woman you Want to Be
1. That Feeling That You’re Not Worthy Or Not Enough.
You know you’re on to something when the issue you struggle with resonates with literally millions of other people. (Type “not good enough” into your browser and just watch what comes up!)
Perhaps the real truth is that we are all worthy and enough. Why not investigate and find out for yourself?
2. Low Standards.
Ugh. Low standards feel awful for a reason. You’ve already spent enough of your precious days feeling awful…life is short. It’s time to feel better, STAT!
3. Settling For Less Than You Deserve.
There is a reason our culture nearly worships supersized living – bigger, better, more.
But you don’t really need “more.” You just need what works for you. You know what “less” feels like so you can use that as your guide to find your happy full place.
4. People Who Don’t Treat You Right.
You share this planet with an estimated 7.7 billion other human beings.
So if your current company isn’t treating you right, you’ve got plenty of options.
5. A Lack of Self-Care.
Self-care is a confusing topic. We all want it, need it, yet somehow manage to not do it.
Here, try using a one-to-one approach. For every single thing you do to care for someone else, do one thing to care for yourself.
6. Hating Things About Yourself.
Self-hate is a real time-waster. But hearing this can feel so incredibly shaming when you are drowning in self-loathing.
Unfortunately, there isn’t any authentic way to take you from zero (self-hate) to 60 (self-love). But you can take tiny steps to feel just a bit better, and then do it again and again.
7. Talking Badly About Yourself To Yourself.
Changing your self-language is something simple you can start doing today. It takes some discipline initially, but the good news is that it pays off quickly.
See How to Be Kinder to Yourself, Starting Right Now.
8. Tolerating Things That You Shouldn’t Be Tolerating.
If you wouldn’t tolerate something – words or behaviors – directed towards a loved one or a pet – you may need to dig deeper to learn why you tolerate these things towards yourself.
9. Staying Silent About Things That Bother You.
Speaking up is very personal and brave. There are ways to make it a bit easier, such as by recruiting a trusted friend to support you while you say what you need to say.
10. Being Ungrateful For What You Have.
Did you know gratitude can actually cure diseases?
Gratitude also has amazing curative powers over the disease of self-hate.
11. Chasing People.
This speaks to the push versus pull theory in business.
Think of it this way. Do you want to connect with the people you have to trip and tackle or the people who are already seeking you just the way you are?
12. Allowing Other People to Control Your Life.
Power is the ultimate legal addictive drug. Perhaps it is time to stop giving your supply of power away to others!
13. Going Through Life Without Setting Goals.
Setting goals is part of our hard-wired goal to survive.
So why not set some other really good thriving goals while you’re busy surviving?
14. Feeling Comfortable.
If change were optional, maybe our attachment to feeling comfortable would make more sense. By embracing uncomfortable change-making feelings, you open up a whole new world of possibilities for yourself.
15. Toxic People.
Social connectivity theory says we are the company we keep. If you want to feel better, choosing your company carefully matters!
Reading through this list is almost guaranteed to feel daunting at first. But here is a secret. These 15 tips are like dominoes. Tip one over and the whole stack starts to topple.
